What changes immensely after being a mother is independence- we, mothers, think multiple times even before stepping out to the grocery store/ vegetable vendor/medical store with the kids and we start looking out for easier options- home delivery/ ask a friend to pick up what you need/ online shopping and so on. While these are great options for mothers, today I will share with you how these tasks can be turned interesting and how these can be fun learning experiences for you toddlers! Especially if you are a mother with limited/ no help, I am sure you will find this useful..
As a new mother of twins, and being in a nuclear set up, I started feeling trapped, as the whole day (read it as day and night) would be spent in feeding, changing, bathing my twins, taking them out and putting them to sleep. That is when I decided to cut out dependencies, stop feeling helpless and grow stronger et happier..
What did I do:
To start with, I decided to step out of the house at least once a week with the babies and as my confidence started building up, I slowly increased the frequency. Now, at 2.5 years, I take them out at least thrice a week alone and we are enjoying this totally. Weekends I get complete support from my husband and I get some 'me' time' too :) Its all about taking those baby steps and gearing up to be independent and empowered!
Choosing the place:
- the place should not be heavily crowded at the same time should not be deserted
- the place should be within a certain radius from your house, so that its easy and quick to commute with the baby. I usually limit my span to 10 km.
- ensure the place has good connectivity in case you are using public transport/ cabs
- ensure the place is kid friendly
- Start with short span trips of say 1 hour and as you get comfortable increase the duration
- Choose a time to step out when the baby is generally in a happy and playful mood (I usually step out around 11 am and get back before 2 pm)
- Schedule your outing such that you can be in before the baby's sleep time, so that you get some rest too
- Keep a bag packed for these trips, this will save a lot of time. But please keep it light
- What goes in my bag?- couple of diapers (pants post they were potty trained), water bottle, one snack box with some easy to eat healthy options, couple of toys, a ring sling and a soft structured carrier to keep my hands free when they are in mo mood to walk, my wallet.
- Let your partner know when and where you would be going and your mode of travel too
The above suggestions/ external references are not influenced in any way and are completely based on my personal experiences/ liking